The current violence against women campaign is a good thing. There is nothing I hate more than a wife beater. It is also good that they are teaching people to get involved and prevent this type of domestic violence. The underlying message that violence is not acceptable by either sex should be underlined. The message is purely directed to men about women. It is important that both sexes not just men accept the message.
There is also something that is not covered by these messages, is violence acceptable in defence of oneself? I would say yes. If the only way to prevent a more serious assault were to resort to violence, I’d say it is ok. What if it is the woman who is committing the violent act?
The only time I have seen male verses female violence is at primary school and early high school. A close friend of mine “Fred”, would frequently be beaten up by “Carol” during lunch time. After one particularly nasty incident I said to Fred, “why don’t you hit her back?”
“Don’t you know you can’t hit girls” was his reply.
“But she is twice your size!”
I’m sure a few swift upper cuts would have quickly stopped Carol from beating Fred senseless. Out of concern for my own wellbeing I let Carol know that I would not stick to the rules if she laid a hand on me. My bluff worked. (I couldn?t really do anything. A year later I was driving around in an electric wheelchair.)
During the years girls were bigger than boys this was a continuing pattern. In year seven “Jeff” would get beaten up by “Carly” the largest girl. When Jeff finally got beaten up for about the fourth time, he’d had enough. And the next time Carly approached him he threw a chair. He didn’t hit her, but she ran away screaming her head off. Jeff was the only one who got in trouble. Carly got away with the numerous incidents with nothing, not even a warning. She didn’t do it again though.
In both these incidents young boys were unable to defend themselves from people who were bigger and stronger than they were. This is almost an exact mirror of many domestic violence situations.
Maybe this campaign should recognise the small minority of males who are the victims of female violence. The people who commit violence against people who are weaker than they are are cowardly. If they know that there will be serious repercussions for their actions they will not do it. That means get involved, if you see a women getting the shit beaten out of her, give the guy a few, in my case that may be spitting on him or maybe running him over.
Instigating violence against anyone is also unacceptable I think this is also an important next step in Government anti-violence advertising.
It makes me ashamed to be a member of the human species that violence like this even needs to be talked about. The fact is that any violent confrontation should not occur no matter what the reasons. The problem is we do live in a violent world and sometimes we do resort to violence. Violence is only acceptable to me when it is used to defend yourself and others.